~Essentially Yours…~
Sept. 26, 2014:
“Essentially Yours…” is a weekly email in which your confusions, concerns and challenges are addressed. The Divine Intention of this email is to take the personal curiosities of one and supply enlightenment and clarity to all.
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“How do you identify Universal signs?”
The ability to identify Universal signs does not require a specific gift or strength; it only requires faith (in God), trust (in Self’s ability to interpret the information), and submission (to the delicate process of Divine interpretation).
Universal Signs (Signs from God) come in the form of encounters, ideas, experiences, thoughts and feelings. They are always timely and always empowering. Yet, for those ignorant of the fact that God does directly communicate with us, these signs often go unnoticed…they blend in with the ho-hum of life, appearing to be irony when they are essentially Divine.
Universal Signs can be easily identified by one who is faithful, trusting and
submissive. Additionally, one has to be alert, open-minded and receptive so as to become able to process the information (the Universal Signs) in real time. Lastly, they have to be honest. Be aware of what you are asking God for, whether during prayer or via your own ‘impassioned’ feelings, thoughts, and ideas. Universal Signs, which are meant to guide, show support, redirect, enlighten and clarify, will appear in the aforementioned ways as a direct response to your expressed needs and, in some cases, wants. Becoming sensitive to this ‘Divine Communication’ is both empowering and nourishing.
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“I find that being patient and compassionate during the healing process is difficult. I see the old feelings come up, I recognize what it is but sometimes I don’t know what my next step in dealing with those negative feelings.”
Healing requires patience and compassion. You are asking your Self to become anew; to erase the damage that was done to it. Self is like, “WTH? We’ve made it through the war, why are you choosing to revisit the devastation?” However, it is through healing that we are able to recoup the power lost during the initial challenging experience. ‘Old feelings’ are to come up as they are attached to the experience that you are revisiting during the healing process. They shall resurface as often as they need to until they cannot. They cannot once they have been distinguished. They become distinguished when you heal.
When ‘old feelings’ arise, you are to address them. When these same feelings arose in the past – when you weren’t healing or while enduring the experience – you did nothing about them. You ignored them; you shoved them into the pit of your soul. Consequently, they meshed with the delicate fibers of your being and subsequently influenced negative behaviors, feelings, actions, perceptions and thought processes. During the healing process, you are paying attention to these ‘old feelings’; you are addressing them; you are resolving them.
It is wise to talk yourself through those ‘old feelings’ which are negative and detrimental to your process. They have arisen so that you can take notice…take notice. You want to understand what prompted those feelings, what are they trying to relay to you about the experience and/or yourself, are they even worth entertaining, and so forth. Our feelings are not just reactions to stimuli; they are also triggers of another matter to be acknowledged. As you heal, become acquainted with your real Self.
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“You talk about ‘healing the Inner Child’; how does one do that?”
Your ‘Inner Child’ represents the first personality formed by you. In Psychology it is taught that ‘the child is the father of the man’; what this means is that the person’s personality – basic psychological and emotional make-up – is formed by the age of five years. Therefore, that ‘development’ has become a viable component to whom we shall become as adults.
The experiences that occur during such an important developmental period in our lives undoubtedly leave imprints upon ourselves. Whether they are good or bad, they will leave impressions that follow us throughout our life-experience. For those who experience abuse of any sort or who were not nurtured according to their spiritual needs (each of us require nurturing, some more than others), these experiences attach themselves to the subconscious mind because the conscious mind cannot process what is occurring. Thus we find years later that we can’t engage in healthy romantic relationships because of something our Inner Child experienced and filed away, never processing the details of said experience because it was unable to do so. As adults, we may find that we suffer from debilitating fear, insecurity, distrust and self-loathing due to early childhood experiences that may be known or unknown to us. Therefore it is during our adulthood that we must heal from our childhood.
To heal your Inner Child, you must first acknowledge that he/she exists – for regardless of what age you are, your Inner Child still remains. Through meditation, counseling/therapy, and/or intuitive guidance (either via self or an intuitive) one is able to revisit their childhood to note the experiences in which their Inner Child became damaged, wounded or broken. It is then at this age that your world became formed for your mind and heart stopped functioning in the way that it should, to function according to its damage, wounding or breakage.
Write it out! Writing is not only therapeutic, it is valuable tool in which we can note our growth – “If one does not note their growth, they disregard their progress.” Return to that age at which you remember or have evidence of major life-changes for these likely precipitate the psychological and emotional damage from which you need to heal. Write a letter from that child (age 5, 7, 8, 12, etc.) to the adult you’ve become. Allow him/her to express what they were feeling at the time they were hurting, breaking, and/or transforming. Allow yourself to remember the experience…allow your Inner Child the opportunity to express Itself, to reach for the savior that never came…and allow your Adult Self to be that savior.
After reading the letter(s) from your Inner Child, respond in writing, acknowledging what he/she is feeling (has felt)…become the responsible adult that should have been their for that vulnerable child. You have experienced much since then; you are better able to explain, understand, support and calm the Inner Child whose voice went unheard. As you would do for your own child, do the same for your Inner Child.
Another tool is to have a photo of yourself as a child, preferably one that was taken around the time your Inner Child became damaged, broken or wounded, to focus on as you consciously assist in Its healing. Having a visual representation of your traumatized self aids in bringing it (the trauma) back into your reality for you are no longer relying on the energy of memories and/or pain as a focal point. Additionally, return to childhood hobbies in an effort to reunite with your Inner Child, who once engaged in those same hobbies. This exercise can bring about a feeling of deja vu, which is powerful in healing from a past issue, for you are able to return (energetically) to that specific moment-in-time. Both the photo and the hobbies can serve as triggers of the actual experience(s); therefore make sure that you have a support group in place.
In any way that you can reconnect with your Inner Child, do so. You owe it to him/her to heal from the devastation that such an innocent and pure energy had to endure. If you want your adult self to thrive, your Inner Child must be empowered.
“If you want to understand the Adult you’ve become, communicate with the Inner Child you’ve abandoned.”
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